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These pages are about my
life-long journey into
self-acceptance, size acceptance, and the realization that I
am entitled to like myself no matter what
my body size is and no matter WHAT anyone else thinks about me...
my
purpose in life is not to decorate someone else's world. |
Here you'll find my view of what it's like
being a BBW (Big Beautiful Women) in today's "thin is in, looks
oriented, diet-obsessed, carb counting" society. You'll also find lots of
links, including ones to large-size clothing,
health issues for fat people , fat fitness,
publications concerning size issues, general size
acceptance and fat acceptance
resources, my on-line PLUS STORE with lots
of size related material, and size-acceptance
web sites on the internet.
There are interesting
articles and insights, my personal favorite
links, our Wedding
Album (yes, my husband and I are an "internet romance
success story") and some pet peeves of
mine.
In a nutshell - here's everything you always wanted to know
about me and living life as a SuperBBW but were afraid to ask! Sit back,
relax and enjoy the sites.
ABOUT SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND
SIZE-RIGHTS...
"Self-acceptance" and
"size-rights" mean a person is not degraded, demeaned, or
denied the basic rights of human existence by themselves or others
because of their physical size, whether large or small. It
means being treated fairly and with the respect that any human being
deserves. It means that no matter what ANYONE thinks of me or
my body, they don't have the right to abuse me because of it.
Under no circumstances should other members of
society deny someone their basic human rights based solely on their
"distaste" for their physical appearance -- including fair
housing, a job if their talents and experience meet the
qualifications, freedom from physical and mental abuse from
family as well as strangers on the street, and so on. When it
happens as "racial discrimination" there is an outcry.
When it's "size-discrimination" it's tolerated, even
encouraged.
Far too often, people outside an individual's range
of "acceptable size" , are judged to be
"unhealthy" and subjected to lectures about how people are
concerned about their "health" and that they should expect
better. "Concern" and "acceptance" are two
very different things. Wrongly, people think
"acceptance" means giving up and not taking care of
yourself. That is FAR from the truth. In fact, the more
accepting a person is of themselves, the more likely they are to
take good care of themselves.
TRUE advocates of the
"self-acceptance/size-rights" school of thinking do not
preach that any physical size is right and someone of another size
is wrong, whether large OR small. They do not preach that
anyone should be fat... or that anyone should be thin, nor
that you should -- or should not -- be attracted to any
particular body type. They believe in the tolerance of
differences in people's bodies and the belief that body size does
not automatically make someone "good" or
"bad", "right" or "wrong",
"healthy" or "unhealthy".
Self-acceptance means not attempting to alter the
size of one's body to satisfy the demands or attitudes of others,
especially to conform to their criteria for physical
"beauty". It means moving the body you
have, eating healthy foods and NOT being a slave to a number on a scale
or a clothing tag.
True advocates of the size-acceptance movement do
not
oppose losing weight and they don't condemn anyone who does lose
weight. Rather
they oppose "dieting" for the sole goal of losing weight
because in most cases, dieting does not work in the long term nor
does it guarantee a state of good health.
Instead, they believe that having an active
lifestyle, exercising, eating nutritious foods and maintaining a
steady weight, even if it's a high weight, is healthier than
striving to maintain a weight that is "artificial" for
their body by "dieting" and starvation.
They've come to understand that losing weight is not always just a
matter of "having some self-control", and that they
are not a failure or success in life because of what they weigh.
People who have achieved size/self- acceptance have
substituted the endless ride on the "dieting" roller
coaster with a simple three-point health sanity plan:
1) eat a variety of truly healthy foods,
2) be active physically because it's fun and feels good
3) treasure your body as it is at any given moment.
Self/size-acceptance means not putting your life on
hold because you are not a Size "___" (whatever....) |
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